if you’re having trouble prioritizing, decide which item on your to-do list you want to do the least.  start there.


wash your dishes.  by hand.  immediately after using them.

you’ll be astonished at what this does to your energy and willpower throughout the day.


“Don’t confuse bad luck with bad decisions.”


“The only thing keeping you from being happy is the belief that you are alone.”

  • Anna Draper – Mad Men season 2


  • 11:52


replace the words “i can’t” with “i don’t want to.”

“i can’t run a half-marathon!” –> “i don’t want to run a half-marathon.”


don’t post your accomplishments on social media.

become empowered by realizing the only person you need to impress is yourself.

Quote 52:

“True art is never finished, it is only abandoned.”

  • Arrow (TV show)


“It takes strength to stand still.”

  • Arrow (TV show)

Video 20:

  • 4:27


be very careful with the commitments you make – especially to yourself.

no matter how small, breaking a commitment creates a landslide effect.  don’t do it.


protect your thoughts.  guard them like your life depends on them – because it does.

Quote 50:

“The antidote for exhaustion is not rest.  It is wholeheartedness.”

Quote 49:

“Great lives belong to men and women who see life as a generosity contest.”

  • Matthew Kelly

Video 19:

  • 6:16

Technique 18:

whenever you’re having a bad day, go for a drive and seek out a dog hanging out the window of another moving vehicle.

instant anti-depressant.

Technique 17:

there’s only one workout/health/nutrition plan that works – the one you’ll stick with.

start so small you can’t not do it, and then work your way up from there.  (1 push-up per day, 1 minute of meditation per day, etc.)


Quote 48:

“I’m sorry I wrote you such a long letter; I didn’t have time to write a short one.”

  • Blaise Pascal (but commonly and incorrectly attributed to Mark Twain)

Quote 47:

“Brevity is the soul of wit.”

  • Shakespeare (Hamlet)

Video 18:

  • 1:16:26 (long but well, well worth your time)

Video 17:

  • 1:53

Quote 46:

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”

  • C.S. Lewis

Quote 45:

“Losing your temper is counterproductive.”

  • Richard Branson

Technique 16:

if in need of a quick spell-check, type the questionable word into Google’s searchbar.

the correct spelling will almost always be the top choice.  instantaneous spell-check!

Technique 15:

at a stoplight don’t instinctively check your phone.

instead spend time in thought.

i was shocked at how uncomfortable this was for me at first.  that let me know i was on to something.

Quote 44:

“It’s the children the world almost breaks who grow up to save it.”

  • Frank Warren

Quote 43:

“There will come a time when you believe everything is finished.  That will be the beginning.”

Quote 42:

“Your outer world is simply a reflection of your inner world.”

Quote 41:

“We cannot outperform our self image.  It cannot be done.”

Video 16:

  • 17:47

Read 8:

Quote 40:

“Faith is the ability to see the invisible.”

  • Clarence Smithison

Quote 39:

“More people are confined by their thoughts than freed by them.”

Read 7:

Video 15:

  • 4:18

Quote 38:

“When you think for as long as I have out here in the woods, alone, for this many days – it changes you.  I mean it changes you.  I am not the same person.  I just can’t wait to get back home, to make people’s lives better.  To make people happy.  To take the weight off of people’s shoulders.  To lighten their step. I can’t wait to do that.”

Quote 37:

“Does anything in nature despair except man?”

Read 6:

Picture 9:


  • (thank you Jan!)

Quote 36:

“Where would the fun be in making something you know will work?”

Quote 35:

“Sometimes what we know gets in the way of what could be.”

Quote 34:

“Only the thing for which you have struggled will last.”

  • Yoruba proverb

Video 14:

  • 6:50

Read 5:

Quote 33:

“Results take as long as they take.”

  • ?

Quote 32:

“Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.”

Video 13:

  • 4:53

Quote 31:

“The most self-serving thing you can do is to learn to become selfless.”

Quote 30:

“You get what you expect, not what you want.”

Quote 29:

“People treat you like you teach them to treat you.”


Quote 28:

“Life’s easy when you live it the hard way.”

Picture 6:

be the light

  • be the light.

Quote 27:

“The most important choices you’ll ever make are how you use your time.”

Quote 26:

“Well done is better than well said.”

  • Benjamin Franklin

Quote 25:

“If the grass lookers greener on the other side…stop staring.  Stop comparing.  Stop complaining.  And start watering the grass you’re standing on.”

Read 3:

Quote 24:

“Nobody criticizes a failure.”

Quote 23:

“You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.”

  • Malcolm S. Forbes

Quote 22:

“Stress comes from ignoring things you shouldn’t be ignoring.”

  • Jeff Bezos

Read 2:

Read 1:

Video 12:

  • 8:01

Video 11:

  • 2:32

Quote 21:

“Nothing beautiful asks for attention.”

  • James Thurber

Quote 20:

“It’s your enemies that make you strong.”

Technique 14:

embrace the fact that pain comes before progress.

and that there is no progress without pain.

if what you’re doing isn’t requiring you to push past boundaries (pain), it’s not worth doing.

Technique 13:

the slowest run is better than the fastest walk.

push yourself.  just a bit.  it will build.

Quote 19:

“Being a professional means doing your job on the days you don’t feel like doing it.”

Quote 18:

“Work and sacrifice bring value to your life.”

Video 10:

  • 4:52

Video 9:

  • 1:08

Video 8:

  • 15:26

Quote 17:

“Success is doing what you want to be doing at all times.”

Technique 12:

make your bed in the morning.  it takes 30 seconds.

trust me on this one.

Quote 16:

“The value of something comes from how hard it was to obtain.”

Quote 15:

“We cannot outperform our self image.”

Video 7:

  • 2:54

Video 6:

  • 3:41

Quote 14:

“If you’re looking at a task and it still seems difficult to do, you’re haven’t broken it down enough.”

Quote 13:

“Advancement of all kind is preceded by a crisis.”

Technique 11:

swap late nights for early mornings.

you will not regret this.

Video 5:

  • 1:15

Technique 10:

don’t say or think “he upset me.”

replace that with “i allowed him to upset me.”

Video 4:

  • 2:54

Video 3:

  • 7:40

Technique 9:

don’t apologize for delays in response.

when you do respond, don’t mention it.

Quote 12:

“Your results in life will never exceed your expectations.”

Technique 8:

listen to music.  it elevates your mood, and can provide motivation when that’s lacking.

if you don’t know what to listen to try The Hype Machine.  download the mobile app (it’s worth the nominal fee), navigate to “Popular” then “Last Week” and save to playlists songs you enjoy to playlists.

then listen to those playlists when you wake up, when you clean, when you cook, when you fold laundry, when you run.

Technique 7:

if you’re in the middle of a task and nature calls, no matter how badly you have to go, finish the task at hand.

you’ll learn that you’re capable of finishing things, without any loss in quality of work, much faster than you thought possible.

Quote 11:

“If you want to do less of it, or if you’re doing it for the money, find a new job.”

Quote 10:

“The more you tell your body that it hurts, the more it will believe you.”

  • Jordan (The Real World)

Video 2:

  • 5:51

Technique 6:

eliminate the phrase “i don’t have time” from your vocabulary.

replace it with “that doesn’t mean enough to me to make the time.”

it will change how you prioritize things.


“i don’t have time to answer my friend’s call right now.”


“it doesn’t mean enough to me to answer my friend’s call right now.”

Quote 9:

“What would you say you’re world-class at?”

Video 1:

  • 5:02

Quote 8:

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”

  • Abraham Lincoln

Technique 5:

meditate every day.

if anyone tells you there’s a right and a wrong way to meditate, they’re incorrect and doing you a disservice.  meditation is personal to each individual, and it’s not possible to be “bad” at it.  as a roadmap, here’s how I do it:

  • i sit cross-legged on my bed, with my back propped up by a pillow.  i sit up straight and support my spine.
  • lights on.
  • i set my iPhone timer for 10 min.  (if you’re just starting out, I’d suggest trying 2 minutes.)
  • i close my eyes.
  • i concentrate on my breath.  whether i breathe deeply or as normal, i concentrate on my breath.
  • whenever a thought enters my mind that takes me away from breath (i’d say every 0.1 seconds) i say to myself, “oh that’s interesting i’m thinking about…”)
  • i then return to my breath
  • i then wait for the next thought to enter my mind, and say again – “oh interesting, now i’m thinking about…”
  • i repeat this until my iPhone alarm goes off.

that’s it.

if you have any interest whatsoever in meditating, please, please, please reach out to me.  i would love to help.  i really would.

other than exercise and sleep, nothing has changed my life more than meditating.

lastly if you try meditating and it’s very uncomfortable and you think “this just isn’t for me, i’m not wired to sit still with my eyes closed” – that means you need it more than ever.

Quote 7:

“It is the greatest sensation of existence: not to trust, but to know.”

Quote 6:

“What do your mistakes have in common?”

Quote 5:

“If I fail more than you do, I win.”

Technique 4:

find the color in every situation.  literally.

whenever you’re feeling lost, or anxious, or scattered – consciously look for any color within your line of sight, and then mentally note that color.  this will bring you back to present and centered, and will give your brain a respite from whatever it’s grappling with.

Quote 4:

“To quietly take

in the elements

is to remove

the dust from

your soul”

Technique 3:

I’m fairly certain that the key to life is taking as many deep breaths as possible.  whether it be in through your nose or mouth, and out through your nose or mouth – drag in as much air as deeply into your lungs as possible, and then exhale slowly.  you will immediately feel better than you did before that breath.

do this often.  as often as possible.

Quote 3:

“Needing nothing attracts everything.”

  • Russell Simmons

Technique 2:

relax your shoulders.  try to catch yourself unconsciously tightening them throughout the day.  then relax them.  you’ll get better at it.

(more in this outstanding book – thank you Jaqueline!)

Quote 2:

“Happy makes money.”

Technique 1:

Tim Ferriss states that one of the best pieces of advice he can impart is to have dinner with friends once a week.

Quote 1:

“In a short time, this will be a long time ago.”